Over the last 20 years I have made some intentional observations about baggage. For instance, I have learned that over packing is almost always a mistake and causes more work and headache. I’ve discovered that using the right kind of bag can eliminate backaches and stress on you body. I know that malfunctioning bags can ruin your journey. I have discovered that some airlines have less baggage fees while others charge you for everything you carry on.
Over the last 7 years I have made some intentional observations about people, their life circumstances and their emotional baggage. I have seen an ever increasing amount of relational tragedies due to too much unhealed, unrepaired brokenness and emotional desperation. It makes me very sad.
There IS a price to pay for emotional baggage when onboarding into a new relationship. My advice, work on downsizing the baggage before you even think about beginning a new relationship with intent towards marriage.
The price for emotional baggage is steep and most of the time the bill doesn’t show up until after the “I dos”. If I may be so bold…. here’s a few baggage tips:
Begin an honest weigh-in on your state of your emotional stability. How are you doing with trust, ability to compromise and coping skills? Are you going to be able to successfully contribute to this relationship?
Don’t try to hide issues in the zipper pockets. They will come out of the bag eventually. If you do get into a relationship, be open about lingering emotional baggage so it doesn’t show up as a surprise.
Examine your true intent of the relationship. Is it just because you “need” someone and they are available?
Check all the zippered pockets and be aware of any hidden unrealistic expectations of this relationship or of yourself. Are you looking for someone to rescue you from your emotions or situation? You and Jesus are truly the only ones that can make you happy. Get happy before you make the journey.
Be aware of any wheel damage. Does the emotional baggage you carry around have unfixed or unaddressed potential hazards with potential of collapsing in the near future? Are your wheels getting ready to fall off? We all have faults and none are perfect but do some damage control beforehand.
Get your emotional suitcase cleaned up and repaired BEFORE you start into a relationship journey. The cost of bringing along the heavy emotional baggage is usually way more than you wanted to pay. Get support, dig deeper in prayer, examine yourself by the Word of God, seek pastoral inputs, be realistic with yourself. Get on a good path before trying to journey with someone else….who may also have unseen baggage.